The Long Goodbye

She said nothing.

He said nothing.

Yet, the silent conversation between them spoke volumes. Well punctuated sentences, long paragraphs. Profound. This was the beginning of goodbye; the end of a long  journey together; the beginning of one that she must now continue alone. Both realizing their mortality. Doctor with limited abilities. Patient with limited ability to perpetuate life. God with all ability.

As they held hands and looked into each others’ eyes-husband and wife-they both spoke the same language: faith, love, hope,  it’s in God’s hands now. Mom has chosen hospice. No more chemo. “Thank you, Doctor, for all you’ve done”.

I punctuated the silence with my own premature grief. “Mom, say something. Are you sure this is what you want?” ‘Yes, I’m sure. I’ve lived a good life. I know my body. It’s time'”.

More silence. No tears, Just Screaming Silence! Deafening silence!

Dad watched. Blank stare; yet all the lines were filled in on his pages. “I’m not ready” written over and over again, line after line.

The doctor breaks the silence. “Stay as long as you need to”, as he left, closing the door behind him. And, we did. as we prepared for the journey ahead.

 

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Bounce Back After Setbacks

How many times have you started a diet, a new way of thinking, or tried something new and then a setback occurs and you just go back to the way you were?
Don’t worry; you are not the only one!
Setbacks and difficulties occur all of the time – they are a natural activity of life!
There are two ways of facing difficulties.You either change or alter the difficulty or you can alter yourself to be able to deal with the difficulty.

Deal with difficulties correctly and you will enhance your confidence; deal with them incorrectly and they can do some serious damage to your self worth.

Choose YOUR response to issues and difficulties

 When you are faced with any setback , your ability to deal with it can be changed into a position of strength by asking yourself some positive, empowering questions.
There is an unwritten rule that says:

Ask your mind a stupid question and you will get a stupid answer!

So, if after setback you ask yourself something like:

“Why does this always happen to me; I never have any luck?

Your mind will probably come out with:

“Because you are useless and good things do not happen to you!”

Sound familiar?

Instead, if you ask yourself a positive, empowering question like:

“What did I learn from this setback that will help and empower me next time?”

Your mind will kick into solution mode and help.

Here are some rules and things to think about when setbacks do occur:

  • Acknowledge that it has happened. Don’t hide from it. These things happen. So what?
  • What positive empowering questions can you ask yourself?

What is good about this situation?

How can I make the most of this situation?

What can I learn from it?

What are the facts about this problem?

How can we make it a successful outcome?

What could I have done differently?

  • Acknowledge that setbacks occur in everyone’s life and you are not being singled out.
  • View them as a challenge to overcome rather than an issue or problem.

Think about the negative dis-empowering thoughts that you think on a regular basis after a setback.

What new empowering questions could you ask yourself to give some better answers!
Write these down now and make them a habit.

You are on your way to a more empowered life. Continue to build your life daily. It’s a process, my friend!

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What I am Thankful For

Thanksgiving is one of my favorite times of year! I love to smell the turkey baking in the oven, the sweet potato pies, stuffing, cranberry sauce, and all the fixings just waiting for us to devour. So, to say that I’m thankful for the meal is an understatement. But, in addition to the meal, I’m thankful for the time spent with family and friends, time off from work and many other things. I’ve tried to sum them up below. I’m sure if I keep thinking, I’ll be able to add to this list.

What I am Thankful For:

Authority over the enemy, Abundant life, the Anointing, The Alpha

Blessings, the Blood, Brokenness

Creation, Choices, Children, the Cross

Deliverance, Dreams, Discipline, Discipleship

Emotions, Endurance, Eternal life, Encouragement, Experience, Education

Faith, Fruitfulness, Favor, Forgiveness, Family, Friends

Glory, the Gospel, Goals, Grandchildren

Health, Healing, Holiness, the Holy Spirit, Humility

I Am, Inheritance, Increase, Illumination

Joy, Jesus, Justification

Knowledge, the King of Kings

Love, Life, Legacy, Laughter

Ministry, Mind renewal, Miracles, Mercy, Music

Newness of life, the Name above all names

Order, Opportunities, The Omega

Patience, Peace, Prosperity, Power, Preaching, Praise, Prayer, your Presence, your Promises, Provision, Promotion, Purpose, Passion, Parents, Provision, Poetry

Questions, Quality of life

Redemption, the Redeemer, Refuge, Repentance, Revelation, the Resurrection, Relatives, Rest, Relaxation

Salvation, Self-Control, Spiritual Gifts, my Savior, Scripture, Sanctification, Service, Stewardship, Sound mind, Seed-time and Harvest-time, Second chances, Strength, Signs, my Senses, my Soul, my Spirit, Sleep

Time, Temperance, my Testimony, Talent

Unconditional love

Victory, Vision, Virtue

Wisdom, Wonders, Your Will, Your Way, Wholeness, my Witness, the Word of God, Worship

Xcellent is your Name

Youth, Yokes destroyed

Zeal

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Be blessed and Happy Thanksgiving!

Thank You Veterans

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I remember the times when I was on planes and everyone on the airplane clapped and cheered when uniformed soldiers entered the airplaine. thanking them as they passed on the way to their seats. I remember all the times that I’ve said “Thank You” as I passed their table in a restaurant or in a store. I especially remember my father and how he must have felt on the cold battlefields during the Korean War before the use of computers, advanced battle planning and weaponry. I’m sure that the physical and emotional toll, however, is the same no matter what branch of the service or what war; time away from family and friends, missing special milestones, being at home to enjoy modern conveniences, and simple pleasures such as grabbing a hamburger or a movie. I remember today as we as a nation collectively say “thank you” and remember your sacrifices that keep us a free nation.  I say “thank you to those of you who serve and have served this great nation. I say “thank you” to the spouses, parents, grandparents, children, and other relatives who share you with us. I thank the homeless veterans  who others seem to have forgotten. I thank those with PTSD who continue to give of their psyche. Thank you for all that you do and have done. May God bless each and every one of you and may God bless the U.S.A.

The Best is Yet to Come!

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Reflecting upon what is to come!

Have you ever felt tired? Just plain tired of the rat race and wondering if it will ever end? I can say that I have. But as I reflect upon my life in this new season, I have come to understand that things must be kept in perspective. The main thing must remain the main thing! And so, now that I am older, I have come to realize that the things that seemed important and urgent really were not. The question, “Will it matter 10 years from now” definitely has merit. I now know for sure that family time and making memories is important and creates legacy. So, I will encourage you, provoke you, and teach you what I have learned thus far in life. My dad always used to say, “I’ve got more years behind me than I have in front of me.” In other words, don’t worry about the past. Your best is yet to come.