Teens & Sexuality: Addressing Sexuality with Teenagers

Helping teens build fruitful, confident, lives is becoming more challenging each day as they are continually bombarded with a world view designed to be contrary to the Word of God. The area of sexuality especially affects our ability teach generations as ordained by God and to leave lasting legacies of lives of faith and fruitfulness. We are to live fulfilling lives of God’s purpose and plan for us as individuals. This article lets us know that there is still good news and victory in spite of a seemingly lost battle.

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Teens & SexualityIn our families and in our churches, we are far too often late to the conversation about sexuality with our teenagers and reactionary once we speak up. This should not be the case. The kitchen table and living room are perhaps the best places for this discussion. And the church is called to equip its people to follow Christ and make disciples within our culture. To overcome this we must talk about the issues—homosexuality, same-sex attraction, gender fluidity, pornography, and sexual immorality—and we must do so clearly and compassionately. Within our cultural climate we cannot retreat out of fear or remain silent out of ignorance in either the home or the church. Now is the time to engage. Now is the time for honest answers to hard questions. Now is the time to listen well and speak truth in love. Now is the time to address the issues of…

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The ABCS of What Parents and Society Want for Our Children

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Here’s a succinct listing of what we all desire for our youth today:
A- Ability to respect authority, authority figures, and parents.
B-Be mindful of their associates and friends
C-Clear rules, expectations, and boundaries at home, at school, and in society
D-Develop peaceful resolution skills, the ability to see other’s point of view, to get along with others, and avoid hurtful language, behaviors, and actions
E-Engage in cultural activities and exposure to new ideas, foods, and places
F-Family life filled with unconditional love and a supportive environment
G-Generational exposure to their elders and their wisdom; respect for elders
H-Healthy choices in thinking, eating, money management, and care of their bodies
I-Integrity in all of their actions
J-Jokes that are not at the expense of someone’s feelings or self-esteem. The gift of laughter.
K-Knowledge. The application of knowledge is power. Be a life-long learner. Value education and stay in school.
L-Learn from their mistakes and keep moving forward
M-Manners. Manners. Manners-have some.
N-Neighborhoods that have caring neighbors who monitor and supervise their behavior
O-Opportunities to be of service to others
P-Positive relationships with adults and to have role models within their family and community, not just celebrities and sports figures
Q-Question their lives-“Why am I here? What’s my purpose? What will be the consequence of my actions?
R-Religious institutions that share in their spiritual, character, and moral development.
S-Safe environments at home, school, neighborhoods, and cities
T-Talk to adults, two way communication with them- listen as well as respectfully share opinions
U-Understand and appreciate cultural diversity in themselves and others
V-Values that develop character, integrity, and guide behavior. The ability to be responsible and to accept responsibility
W-Work skills that include soft and hard skills
X-Xamine choices and the ability to monitor their own behavior
Y-Youth programs, sports, and clubs that engage them in activities during key after school times and on weekends.
Z-Zeal and passion for goals that foster independence and self-sufficiency; the ability to persevere and never give up.

Chapter 45

A new chapter begins in our lives today;
What will be your contribution?
What will your life say?
We live in a country that has stood the test of time
And allowed us to say,
“This is mine”,
With such a rich legacy and rich history
Do we really value and honor
What others have sacrificed for you, for me?
It’s about more than who’s in office in this government of the people, for the people, and by the people
For we, too, have a responsibility,
From the synagogue to the churches with and without steeples
To ensure that we exercise our rights and responsibility
to stay free.
It’s about what’s right,
No matter who’s doing it
All people matter,
Even those who some think don’t fit.
Focus, faith, fellowship and fortitude will be what unite us
And carry us forward,
Leaving in the dust those who
Refuse to get on board
As they continue to divide and sow discord;
Because each chapter that you write
Will determine the future of our
Young, old, neighbor, friend, foe
Our mindsets determine how far we go
So let’s get past the pomp and circumstance
Take responsibility and give our
Freedom a chance.
Exercise your rights peacefully.
Use your voice.
Use your vote.
Educate and empower yourself
And stay out of the boat
Of mediocrity.
God bless America
God bless you and me!

Travel Light

Where do you want to go in life? My desire is to go far, running with endurance and stamina. With this in mind, I must consider the preparation, the cost, the attitudes, the destination and travel companions that will either impede, impact, or impair my travel.

The Preparation

Whenever I travel, I make a list of the items that I plan to take with me and the things that I don’t want to forget to do before I leave. I intentionally plan to pack light because the more weight that I carry in my bags, the slower I am able to move. I am also weighted down and find it harder to move. And it more costly. The same is true in my life’s journey. If I want to go far, my baggage must be light. I cannot carry people and their issues, negativity, unforgiveness, or people who want to accompany me while kicking and screaming all the way. I will prepare educationally, spiritually, emotionally, and physically to be able to make the long journey through life.

The Cost

Trips can be very expensive, so I usually surf the net to find the cheapest rates while still enjoying the finest hotels, gourmet meals, and sights. While travelling through life, I can enjoy the journey with the least cost to my emotions, finances, and spirit by making sure that I surf the net of the Holy Spirit, the experiences of those who have been where I’m trying to go, and wise counsel. Sites like Travelocity and Priceline save me more, stress, and worry. The trip through life can be less expensive when you plan to cut the costs.

The Attitudes

When I travel, I have a spirit of adventure. I want to meet new people. I want to eat good food. I want to stay as long as possible. I want to have fun. I have the same attitude about my journey through life. God has so much beauty for us to see. There are interesting, positive people who are on the same journey who have goals and interests that are similar to mine. There are people who are further along who can show me the way to go, paths to avoid and who can expose me to things that I have not experienced. There are good books to read. There is more revelation in the Bible that I have not heard or seen. I want to feast at the banquet table of my destiny and purpose with an attitude of gratitude and expectation.

The Destination

I’ve been on cruises. I’ve been to tropical islands. I’ve been to other countries. I want to travel to Europe. I want to travel to Africa. There are so many places to go and to see. But, when it’s all said and done, my ultimate goal is Heaven. So, as I travel on my life’s journey, I must use each destination as a mile traveled toward my ultimate destination, using them as opportunities to get others to join me on the journey. I am an ambassador of Christ and heaven. Therefore, my travel partners cannot impede, impair. Or negatively impact my travel. If you want to go where I’m going, pack light and let’s go!!!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Un-pack your bags for the Journey

Life is a jouney. Unpack for it!

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My friend, how often is it that we focus so much on getting to a destination that we fail to enjoy the journey? I know, I know. Life is hectic and fast paced. But, wouldn’t it be a shame to arrive and realize that there was scenery along the way that we missed. Often at the end of life or in the journey toward our goals and purpose, we miss so much. We focus on the bumps in the road, the detours and even the Nay Sayers who say that we shouldn’t even take the journey. But, when we travel Interstate and roads toward planned trips and  destinations, we continue to travel in spite of the inevitable and eternal construction, the detours and the bumps in the road. Airplanes have delays and turbulence. Bus trips are long and taxing. Train rides are filled with people that we may not care to be around. Travel…

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Un-pack your bags for the Journey

 

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My friend, how often is it that we focus so much on getting to a destination that we fail to enjoy the journey? I know, I know. Life is hectic and fast paced. But, wouldn’t it be a shame to arrive and realize that there was scenery along the way that we missed. Often at the end of life or in the journey toward our goals and purpose, we miss so much. We focus on the bumps in the road, the detours and even the Nay Sayers who say that we shouldn’t even take the journey. But, when we travel Interstate and roads toward planned trips and  destinations, we continue to travel in spite of the inevitable and eternal construction, the detours and the bumps in the road. Airplanes have delays and turbulence. Bus trips are long and taxing. Train rides are filled with people that we may not care to be around. Travel by ship runs into rough seas and storms.. Yet, we buy the tickets and sign up for the ride, anyway.

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Let me encourage you to do the same on the road of life. But, un-pack your bags for the journey. You only get one carry-the one that will include all of  your life skills to manage turbulence, rough seas, and storms of life. What skills should you pack in this carry-on that must be with you at all times?  Of course, you can’t leave it unattended, because just like in commercial travel, unattended bags can lead to big trouble for us.  Someone else gets the opportunity to control our life and travel!

Pack the ability to manage your emotions without letting them manage you.  Pack some financial management so that the world of consumerism doesn’t consume you. Pack some love and time for your family. Pack some focus so that you can plan and execute the travel plan to your destination.  And, don’t forget some time management so that you won’t sleep through your stops along the way-stops for rejuvenation, connections, and mentoring appointments.

Don’t foget to unpack negativity and negative people. Unpack anger and unforgiveness. Unpack self-doubt and most of all, the words “I can’t”. This heavy baggage will only delay your arrival at your destination.

So, how can you make the journey  of life toward our education, marriage happiness, our healthy and well-mannered children, our career, and our journey toward our eternal destination more enjoyable? The same way that we make our travel by car, plane, bus, or train more enjoyable. We take with us things or do things that will make the trip pleasant. We take games and books. We talk to each other. We listen to music. We listen to podcasts. We eat. Wow! In the spiritual, we can do the same things. Talk to God as you journey. He’ll order your steps and be your GPS. Learn to play the game of life, recognizing that there will be bumps in the road, trials and tribulations, sorrow as well as joy. No one is exempt. Spend travel time listening to and reading things that will feed and nourish your soul. And, by all means, eat healthy. Eat of the Word of God as well as foods that are healthy for your temple (body). Smell the flowers along the way and be a flower on someone else’s journey with your smile and kind words.

We’re all on this highway of life. When I pass your way, make my journey more pleasant. I’ll be sure to do the same for you. Peace! And, until next time, be blessed.